Sense of Belongings..

I bought this book in 2007, guess what? I haven't finish reading it! Half way though.. The reason? Because the font is quite small, not really suitable for my short-sighted eyes. Awakening Intuition-Using your Mind-Body network for Insight and Healing by Dr. Mona Lisa Schulz.


I always think I have this 'six-sense' or some people might call it 'instict'. Ya, I do have it. I've noticed I had it way back during my Uni time. 8 out of 10 things I felt, came true. Started from there I developed an interest in exploring my 'instict'. Everytime I go to bookstore I unhesitantly go to New Age Section, looking in between of the shelves, a books about 'instict'. Because of budget restriction of being a Uni student back then, I would just sat, flipped through and read few interesting pages and put it back on the shelf where it belonged.


And since now I have a steady income on my own, I owned few New Age books. And this book is the interesting ones. It teaches you everyday situations where it brings you to realization that your body basically telling you how well they are. What we should do is just listening to what our body tell us and using it as protection or a method of knowing what's wrong with it.


One phrase that catches my attention was "Research has shown that women who has close relationships with men actually have more regular periods and fewer problems with fertility. It appears, believe or not, that something in male armpit sweat helps regulate the menstrual cycle. Apparently, even something potentially offensive, like body odour, has biochemical usefulness in helping us bond to one another". This is what I would like to call Sense of Belongings. And it's very very true.


Whenever I feel down and sad, I am sure looking for something comfortable, something that can makes me feel better again. Something that can bring me back to life. Something that I belong to.. When my partner with me, he hold me tight, all the problems collapsed and I can go through almost anything. Because when I smell his scent, the safety bond developes. And I feel safe again.


Whenever I cry, my Fat Orange Cat will definitely come to me and comfort me. Smelling his thick orange fur and hearing his endless pur to me, is priceless. Surprisingly, as if an angel taking over me, I will stop crying and at the same time telling him that "I am ok, don't worry about me, I'll stop crying now.." And his pur continues...


And again, the Sense of Belongings situation happens again when I'm goin to bed. I can't sleep without my 'bantal busuk' (smelly pillow). You know, your favourite pillow where you sniff its signature or some kind significant smell and you basically breathing through it till you fall asleep. Ya, that's what I'm talking about. It can be your favourite pillow or blanket or even the bed itself. Like my partner, he insists on keeping the same bedspread as long as it can be on there, regardless how smelly and dirty it can be without ever changing it. The reason being is whenever the bedspread being changed, he's having tough time to fall asleep and it is not something preferable. He lost his sense of belongings. Funny and dirty at the same time, eh?


Is this Sense of Belongings is good? I have no answer. But I know it is something 'must haves' in life. And I know I can loose it, not in million years.